For decades now it has been the custom for educators to make kids feel good about themselves for no particular reason. This practice, which is not backed by any evidence, is based on the premise that high self-esteem leads to high achievement. Accordingly participants in spelling bees and sporting events all come away with trophies so that no one feels bad about not measuring up. read more …
After leading IBM for six decades Thomas Watson Jr. was asked what lessons he had learned from making bad decisions. “Good judgment,” he said, “comes from experience. And experience comes from bad judgment.”
His adage illustrates that error is a powerful teacher. The human brain learns best by monitoring its mistakes and trying not to repeat them. But what if one never learned certain lessons to begin with? Read more at The Fallible Mind
Helicopter parents prevent children from coping with setbacks and disappointment. People in their 20s do not consider themselves adults.
For a long time we’ve known that we’re far more sensitive to negative feelings than to pleasant ones. In gambling language the rule of deterrence might be stated as, “The fear of losing outweighs the pleasure of gains.” The pain of loss is quantitatively about double the pleasure we experience from reward. The psychological name for this deterrence is “loss aversion.” Loss aversion is not a flaw. Extensive research shows it to result from the very way our brain is structured. Once the evolving brain hit upon a really useful program it burned it down to the level of our DNA. Fear of loss is highly instructive, and error a powerful teacher, and so we learn not to court its pain.
Well-meaning parents try to shield their kids from unpleasant facts, assuming that tough details of reality will upset their children and inflict harm. But evidence to the contrary shows how mistaken they are.
When you throw a party, you don’t clean up until everyone’s gone home. Sleep is a VERY active state, not passive at all.The brain parties every moment you are awake. While it’s being lively it makes a mess, like partiers everywhere. A good night’s sleep literally clears your head. All living cells metabolize energy. As they burn fuel they leave behind residue and toxic wastes—the equivalent of empty glasses, smelly ashtrays, and dirty dishes that a host must face when the action is over and things have died down …
Death is a topic avoided by both patient and physician. “We did everything we could” has typically come to mean that we’ve done more than we should.
Here is a feature essay in The Washingtonian Magazine about how I teach student doctors Lessons in the Art of Death and Dying at George Washington University Medical School.
In the 1950s I went with my father on house calls. Nearly every home seemed to have a sick room, and an invalid in need of comfort. In the 1970s no one taught me how to handle fraught, terrifying situations at the end of life. Today, a majority of Americans die alone in hospitals and nursing homes, out of view. The blessing of a peaceful death is something too few people experience. The best way to die is in the room of your choice, surrounded by people of your choice, holding the hand of your choice.
“Generations are more different from each other now than at any time in living memory. The multigenerational household now sees boomers and boomerangers living under the same roof as they once did in the 1940s and 1950s.” Read Review
People sleep fitfully during the full moon. Other things happen, too. Folklore claims that the full moon affects people, yet a lunar influence on human affairs has never been shown—until now. Sleep and subjective well-being do respond to lunar cycles, and there appears to be a second, monthly, clock in the brain besides the familiar circadian one.